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The Seasons of Love
A relationship is
like a garden. If it is to thrive it must be watered regularly. Special care
must he given, taking into account the seasons as well as any unpredictable
weather. New seeds must be sown and weeds must be pulled. Similarly; to keep
the magic of love alive we must understand its seasons and nurture love's
special needs.
The Springtime of Love
Falling in love is like springtime. We feel as though we
will be happy forever. We cannot imagine not loving our partner. It is a time
of innocence. Love seems eternal. It is a magical time when everything seems
perfect and works effortlessly. Our partner seems to be the perfect fit. We
effortlessly dance together in harmony and rejoice in our good fortune.
The Summer of Love
Throughout the summer of our love we realize our partner
is not as perfect as we thought, and we have to work on our relationship. Not
only is our partner from another planet, but he or she is also a human who
makes mistakes and is flawed in certain ways.
Frustration and disappointment arise; weeds need to be uprooted and plants need
extra watering under the hot sun. It is no longer easy to give love and get the
love we need. We discover that we are not always happy, and we do not always
feel loving. It is not our picture of love.
Many couples at this point become disillusioned. They do not want to work on a
relationship. They unrealistically expect it to be spring all the time. They
blame their partners and give up. They do not realize that love is not always
easy; sometimes it requires hard work under a hot sun. In the summer season of
love, we need to nurture our partner's needs as well as ask for and get the
love we need. It doesn't happen automatically.
The Autumn of Love
As a result of tending the garden during the summer, we
get to harvest the results of our hard work. Fall has come. It is a golden
time - rich and fulfilling. We experience a more mature love that accepts and
understands our partner's imperfections as well as our own. It is a time of thanksgiving
and sharing. Having worked hard during summer we can relax and enjoy the love
we have created.
The Winter of Love
Then the weather changes again, and winter comes. During
the cold, barren months of winter, all of nature pulls back within itself. It
is a time of rest, reflection, and renewal. This is a time in relationships
when we experience our own unresolved pain or our shadow self. It is when our
lid comes off and our painful feelings emerge. It is a time of solitary growth
when we need to look more to ourselves than to our partners for love and
fulfillment. It is a time of healing. This is the time when men hibernate in
their caves and women sink to the bottom of their wells.
After loving and healing ourselves through the dark winter of love, then spring
inevitably returns. Once again we are blessed with the feelings of hope, love,
and an abundance of possibilities. Based on the inner healing and soul
searching of our wintery journey, we are then able to open our hearts and feel
the springtime of love.
John Gray "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus"